A few months back, I’ve shared with you what I call “My Erotic Calendar”, where I include a series of steamy events that’ll provide excellent opportunities to find women to enjoy delicious threesome sex. (I’f you have not seen this article, you can download it for FREE at: http://www.stepbystepthreesome.com/candidates.htm)
After the article was published several people emailed me and told me that I needed to Include several other events, so I’ve been trying to keep my event schedule as updated as possible. (By the way if you’ve know about an event that is not mentioned in my calendar let me know at suzy@stepbystepthreesome.com )
Several people told me about “The Burning Man” but it was until Squeeze and Mistress shared with me this article that I said WOW! This is a MUST go event. So, I’m going to do my outmost to bet there this year or next.
I’m sure after you read this article you’ll also say ME TOO! and perhaps even call the airlines to make your booking!
Enjoy:
Sex in the Desert or
Where Sex & Spirituality Meet & Mingle
What’s Burning Man?
If an ongoing experiment in temporary community is what your searching out, then “The Burning Man Project” (www.burningman.com) is your final destination. For those of you who haven’t heard of this city built every year in the desert, the following is a quick overview. Burning Man is a weeklong festival held in the Black Rock Desert, Nevada, in the USA, that combines, interactive large scale art, strong participation by everyone who goes (no spectators encouraged), music (lots of music), costumes, performance art, a gift economy (meaning nothing is for sale, no vending, only gifting and being self sufficient), free classes, art cars, and a strong sense of exploration & openness. On Saturday, 2 days before the end of this 7 day & night celebration “The Man” a 70-foot image & structure made of wood is burned to the ground. This is my new years!
I once heard someone say “its like Disneyland, except you bring the rides!” What they mean is that all the ticket holders bring everything you see. There is no them, it’s all US! With a focus on radical self-expression, radical self-reliance & responsibility, this event brings in all types of people, from all over the world and from different economic & political ends, all ages & genders. 90% are in costume or dressed as their alter egos. Its like a giant Felini film for 7 days & nights.
Here at Burning Man your encouraged to visit each others “camps”, which attendees decorate or have built in a theme. Each usually offers some kind of service; food, bar, nightclub, massage, yoga, games, interactive art, library, body painting and classes ranging from, “How to make fairy wings” to “beginning wax dripping” (light bondage) to learning “Thai massage” or “participating in a tradition Japanese Tea Ceremony”. It’s all there and it’s all free of cash!
Music? Music would take another article to give justice to it. Let’s just say its music heaven, DJ’s from around the world, bands, special secret appearances, marching bands, any kind you can imagine.
Sex in the (Black Rock) City
So needless to say the energy at this event is fun, loving, helpful, supportive and it has a strong sexual energy about it. I believe it’s due to the fact, that the things I just mentioned above are sexy traits & make everyone feel comfortable. It’s not just the sex classes/discussion groups ranging from A-Z and all you can imagine. It’s not only the sexy art, or the 34,000 sexy people in erotic outfits…. it’s the whole experience of an overload of support, openness and being surrounded by some of the most creative and amazing people & art.
This brings me to the “Sexual” aspect of Burning Man. Over the years I’ve seen a lot. But only at the rate I was ready to find it. At first the energy gave me a buzz, a little like Las Vegas, the lights, the excitement, but without the money. This buzz made me feel warm & fuzzy in all the right places, extremely sexy and with an overwhelming feeling of safety & openness. As my days continued I found the “What, Where and When” Burning Man directory and schedule book. This provided day-to-day activities and classes. Oral Sex Tuesdays and Threesome Thursday…I couldn’t believe it. I took a class with my wife on red Tantra, an intimate massage class, Bi-Babes pot-luck & cocktail party for single woman & couples only (Bi-Babes Camp), and a wax dripping demonstration. Keep in mind this is free of cash. I helped serve drinks; I cleaned up at one of the events and helped a stranger find the Post Office (where real federal mail is delivered & received daily).
Year after year I would try more, see more and hear more about other camps & events. I went out to see “Jiffy Lube” a gay center of activity, tongue in check humor and playful men. I’ve seen couples of all kind making love in the desert, people just hugging and holding hands. I’ve found more kinky parties (as much as there not right on the street corner, but one large 60 foot dome back from the street), I talk to the doorman and the Mistress & I entered a secret world of exotic mystery.
I’ve seen spanking machines, sex toy making, women only parties, drag parties, the famous & women-inspiring critical tits parade, goddess g-spot massage, white Tantra, red tantra, singles, groups, threes/fours, discussion groups, radio shows, live sex performances, sex inspired dance, pole dancing art cars as well as classes, body painting, art body hair shaving, anal play, coffee enemas (sing….“The best thing about waking up, is Folgers up your butt”), tickling play dome, Poly Paradise, Bondage camps, nuns & priests, school girls & aliens…what more can I say
One camp has the annual “Whatch Un Bewatchen”, a group activity, others are Petting Zoos, decorated in all pink, 8 foot pink bean bags, on pink carpet, in a 60 foot dome with the best ambient music you’ve heard in years, Tiki Lounges, animal theme bars, the “Temple of Atonement”, there’s sexual spirituality, Pan & Eros, pagan, witches, conservatives, liberals, church goers, goths, shy people, wild people, people from Japan, Thailand, Europe, Africa, Kansas…you name it, even grandma & grandpa!
The great thing is, its not right there in your face, it takes a bit of looking for. It’s easy to find if you want it, but for beginners it’s not overwhelming. If someone is ready for a small push of his or her sexual boundaries, they can find that first step. For the more sexually advanced, it’s there for them too. The citizens of Black Rock City (official name of our temporary community) are there to help encourage & support change, growth & boundary pushing. If ever there was a place to try something new, without feeling ashamed, or labeled or guilty…its Burning Man.
If anything makes me feel super sexy…its knowing I’m surrounded by all these like minded, creative people and finding out who I am, one day at a time, once a year, for 7 hot days in August.
Sexual freedom, as in all true freedoms includes radical self-responsibility. This is not an anarchist movement…per say. It’s about community. You can express and be who you want, as long as you don’t harm others. You are considerate if there is a “Kids Kamp” next to you. You help others who are lost or maybe a bit loaded…you don’t take advantage of them. This is not a hippy love fest either…this is a mix of all types of people truly taking care of each other, while taking care of themselves too. This isn’t about rich or poor, right or left, us & them. This is about people on a real one to one.
This is no free ride because it’s based on gifting. Giving away food, water, gifts, conversation, help, friendship, support, an open-mind & love. Not that everyone’s naked (often quoted misconception), but, if everyone is naked & there is no money involved, the only thing to base others off of is…”are they nice, friendly and a good conversationalist? With no power in money or status clothing, the less nice folks (aka: jerks) stand out like a stain in the rug. Those who act like this, usually make a huge life change and its great to see this in action. They learn that others can care for them without crying out by being an ass.
Advice for the future burner
Get your ticket now! Read the survival guide on-line at the official website. Bring water, food, cool & warm clothes, tent & shade structure, old bike, sunscreen, chap stick, goggles, dust mask, costumes, your favorite lube, toys, and an open mind.
The friends are there; so don’t be afraid of coming alone.
If you’re traveling from a far away region other then the US, there are supplies in Reno, Nevada. Some camps at Burning Man offer loan bikes to help people get around. If you are from outside the US, go to this link http://regionals.burningman.com/ and above the US map are a list of countries & continents. Go find YOUR regional contact nearest to/or in your country.
If your in the US or Canada go to this link: http://regionals.burningman.com/
“And though you hear about the sex, parties & music…the real surprise of it all, is the life changing experience that people talk about year after year. Its very spiritual, its too big for words, it’s the whole experience that makes up this event we call…Burning Man”. Squeeze 2002
Now go get it on!
Squeeze & Mistress
Squeeze and Mistress are the “Southern Oregon Burning Man Regional Contacts”, USA (www.siskiyouburners.org). There job is to help people get to & prepare for Burning Man, bring the Burning Man spirit home to Oregon and build it in their own community.
You can see more pictures here:
http://images.burningman.com/index.cgi?q_photog=&q_category=people&q_keyword=&q_year=2001&skip=100
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Suzy
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